Some people are more naturally fearless than others. For the rest of us, it is a learned 'way of being'. Many of my clients ask, how do I grow my confidence to speak from the stage? to take bigger risks in my career? to run a marathon or even around the block for the first time? I always answer, "Do it scared."
Yesterday we were put to the test.
We had a family whitewater rafting adventure. My fear-less daughter Savvy was scared. She mutterred from the back of the boat, "Can we die? What if we flip?" Her mind was fixated on all that could go wrong.
"Focus on what you want, not on what you don't want", I coached back to her.
She wasn't buy'in it.
We cause ourselves unnecessary anxiety when we focus on the wrong things. I wasn't giving up on her.