Learning how to positively manipulate or manage your own mind is an important practice in your work and personal life. I have had many private clients admit to finding this practice difficult without tools or guidance. That’s often how they wind up as my client. The first step is simply educating yourself, increasing your understanding as to why you have the patterns that you do.
The goal of mind management is to make what is currently unconscious, conscious. Unresolved conflict in your subconscious can cause you inconsistency in your performance. Your history created programming and mindsets that may no longer be benefitting you.
When you consciously set a new goal or aspiration to attain, you do so with your conscious, cognitive state. Yet, as you proceed, you quite often experience the pull, or undercurrent of subconscious setpoints. Those are the beliefs and mindsets at your core that may not align with the new goal. The result is a misalignment that causes much suffering and frustration. It happens to the most worthy and capable, good people!
Your subconscious truly is powerful. Its sole job is to house your deep intrinsic beliefs and the habitual patterns that are a result of those beliefs. The astounding thing is, many of those beliefs are not your own. They were mechanisms placed there for your safety and survival. You are either modeling that which was learned (typically parental behavior), or causing yourself anxiety over unmet needs (not receiving emotional needs from parents). As an adult you may find yourself fighting like hell to do a lot of proving, robbing you of internal peacefulness, or experiencing bouts of powerlessness, where you feel you don’t have what it takes to reach your full potential.
One client experienced childhood anxiety having been raised in an emotionally erratic household, particularly from her Father. As she grew into an adult and physically free of mental and emotional abuse, she found the workplace to be a source for growth and confidence building. The measured environment was grounding for her as she was given objectives and goals, along with rewards for meeting them. She began to thrive into managerial positions. Yet, on the inside, she still felt imposter syndrome and the pull from those subconscious setpoints. As we dove into our subconscious work, we began to uncover numerous situations at work, where she recognized, she was holding herself back by falling into the old patterns of needed protection in her childhood. She avoided situations that seemed confrontational, felt less than among her male colleagues, and found it difficult to communicate with confidence when things got tough. She knew she wasn't leading with her full potential.
What many fail to understand is these subconscious setpoints are not markers of your ability or final performance. They are not set in stone. They are simply neuropathways established by learning environments (aka your childhood experiences). Truth is, they are mental/emotional prisons with the door wide open.
Coaching with a trained Hypnotherapist is a great method for communicating with your subconscious and developing a supercharged mindset where you can easily internalize new goals and see them through to completion. The goal is to shift the internal source of power and draw from a deeper self-trust in a growth mindset environment. My client mentioned here did just that resulting in a much more confident leadership style. She learned how to manage her state of mind and become more consistent with her desired results.
Coaching offers a deep dive into fast tracking your progress and improving the pace in which you reach your goals. As a continued practice, we always recommend being mindful of managing your state of mind. Here are 22 ways to manage your state of mind.
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